The Joy of Generations

Every now and then, day care encounters an individual who is anxious and upset that they are being left behind by their loved one for the day. A child will cry out and ask for their mother. A man will ask over and over again where his wife is and when he can go home. From childhood to adulthood, St. Ann's staff has found this to be a consistency throughout life's stages. Here at St. Ann's, the many generations find solace in each other.

A young girl repeatedly asking for her mother and crying during an intergenerational activity at St. Ann's Shepherd House, was placed on the lap of a client, suffering from dementia, who often grows upset by the absence of his wife. The two were instantly calmed. Together, they participated in activities with the other children and adults, without tears or nervous questioning.

A remarkable sight to see, but ever so common within the walls of St. Ann's, proving once again how the importance of intergenerational care is apparent as a successful therapy for a variety of generations.

Submitted by Stacy Ory

Goodbye Carol

A long time client by the name of Carol, came to Shepherd House five times per week from her group home to participate in activities and increase her socialization. Carol was a wonderful addition to the Shepherd House family, spending a majority of her time in Leandra hall which is specialized for those with higher needs. Carol, although 73 years old, she declared to staff to be 16, though acted as youthful as a 3 year old.

As the elevator doors opened every morning to greet Carol, staff was greeted by her taking her shoes off and throwing them to the side, indicating that she was making herself as comfortable as possible. Shortly after her arrival into the building, the staff and clients were serenaded by wonderful songs such as “You are my Sunshine” and “Happy Birthday” as well as “God Bless America” and a year round rendition of “Jingle Bells.”

Carol, who was given the nickname “Little Carol” by staff due to her incredibly short stature, enjoyed only one activity beyond that of music, looking through her “book.” Staff and client family members searched their magazine collections to bring in any JCPenny catalogs they could find for Carol to page through until her little fingers turned black and the space next to her chair was piled high with pictures she wanted to share with others. Carol absolutely loved playing ball toss, talking about babies, and would often request “kissies” from staff. She laughed all day long and would call staff by name and talk about her sisters.

She was by far Danny Crivello’s number one fan. Every time Danny came to Shepherd House to sing, Carol was the loudest sing along voice heard, and gave the loudest cheers and claps. Danny would always get down on one knee and serenade Carol with her own song asking if she loved him, to which she would shout out “OH, YES I LOVE YOU!”

Unfortunately, Carol fell ill quite often, causing her to miss day care for as much as a month at a time. However, upon her arrival, she was as happy as ever, and staff would greet her by picking her up out of her wheelchair, and holding her in their lap like a young child, cuddling her and giggling with her. It was clear Carol was loved by her family, her group home, and by all of Shepherd House.

Little Carol passed away unexpectedly on November 9th, 2009. Shepherd House staff mourn her loss still today, but clients still talk about “that loud little one” from time to time, reminding the staff that Little Carol’s legacy at Shepherd House and as part of the St. Ann’s family, will never be lost.
Written by: Stacy Ory